Shake the Sugar Tree: How To Get Into The Mood When Your Not Feeling It

Not my writing but I thought an excellent add to the Shake the Sugar Tree section - smiles!

BDSM Slave Training:  How To Get Into The Mood When Your Not Feeling It
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Hi zecrets,
There is a question I received that I hear as a major complaint
from every sub I know.

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Hi Mistress Sophia,
i have finally figured out that i am far more submissive then i
ever thought possible. That is all thanks to you and all the
information you have given me.  i don't know where i would be
without your guidance.
While i know i want to be more submissive to my mistress, i find
there are times when i'm just not in the mood to be submissive.
How can i get myself in the mood when i'm not, especially when my
Mistress wants me to serve her?
Sincerely,
DK, New York
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My comments below:

Even though you might have the best intentions for your Master or
Mistress, chances are good that you're human too.  We all have
'off' days and days when we just don't think we can focus as well
as we probably should.  But when you're in a BDSM relationship,
chances are also good that you will need to get into the submissive
space, even when you don't feel like it.  And you want to impress
your Dominant, don't you?  Here's how to always be in the
submissive mood.

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You're Not Always Going to be in the Mood
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First of all, start off by realizing that you're not perfect - and
that's okay.  It's okay to not always be 'on' and it's okay to have
troubles focusing at times.  There's nothing wrong with this and
thinking there is something wrong can make you even more likely to
lose focus.  Instead, you want to focus on trying your best to get
into the mood.  This effort is going to show your Master or
Mistress that you truly care about pleasing them, even when you're
not feeling it.

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Remembering Your Place
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You can begin to get more into the mood of your submissive role by
taking a few minutes each day to remind yourself of your place in
your relationship and how this helps your Master or Mistress.  Take
a few minutes just to write down what you are expected to do and
why you choose to do it.  This will help to imprint these ideas
into your mind, while also helping you to create a continuous
reminder system that prevents you from getting out of the mood most
days.

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Focusing on Your Master/Mistress
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Why do you care about your Master or Mistress?  When you are
feeling a little less sub-y than you should, take a few minutes to
think about all the things your Dominant provides for you -
structure, discipline, love, etc.  As you look over this list, how
do these things make you feel?  Do you feel appreciative of your
Dominant?  Of course, you do.  Keeping these gifts from your Master
or Mistress in mind will help you to continue to focus on them and
what they need from you in order to know you care.

Each day, you might want to ask yourself what your Master or
Mistress needs.  Even if you don't have a clear answer some days,
turning your focus back on the one you serve will help you to
forget about how tired you are or how much you simply want to just
watch TV.

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Use a Journal to Let Go of the Rest of Your Life
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When you're feeling out of focus, it may also be just a case of
having too much going on in your brain.  You might have children to
worry about, school, or other preoccupying thoughts.  As a result,
it's no wonder you can't keep your mind on your Master or Mistress.
 To make things easier, get a journal and write down all of the
things you are worrying about, all of the things that might be
hindering your ability to serve your Master or Mistress.  Release
these ideas into the journal and let them go from your mind.  With
practice, you will be able to clear your mind and make sure it's in
the mood when you need it to be.

Even when you're not completely perfect in your submission, your
Master or Mistress will see when you are trying hard anyways.  This
often means more than even the most perfect slave acts.  It shows
you are trying to think of them before you - and that's true
submission.

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Regards,
Master Bishop
&
Mistress Sophia
support@discoverbdsmslavetraining.com

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