I've seen it said repeatedly that when things get twisted, when Life seems to have overwhelmed them, people drop their "roles" and just talk, which begs the question - Did they not talk before? Just recently I ripped to tiny pieces an article I had printed out because he kept referring to every aspect of the Lifestyle as role-play, and for our Family that is simply not what it is. Role-play is when I dress them in their schoolgirl outfits and bend them over my desk and, as the Dean, spank them for being such naughty little brats. My being Master and them being slaves are not roles that we play; it is who we are. We communicate constantly and within that communication needs, desires, as well as trouble spots come out and are discussed. For people who claim to live this Lifestyle 24/7 to say that they drop their roles at anytime makes me wonder how much fantasy their life is or what kind of Master the Master really is. 24/7 means all the time and if you are having issues maintaining that then perhaps you are trying to live the accoutrements and not the deeper Life, and if that works for you, then role-play away.
However, I am who I am. At times I can be rigid and stern, but most of the time I am laughing and cuddly. However, at all times I am Master. I could no sooner set that aside as I could the part of me that is Father to my children. This isn't a game I play at; it is Me. If for you it is a "role" or "game", then by all means play it. However, do not follow the arrogant line that everyone does things like you or claim a branding and then bend it to your definition. There is nothing wrong with saying, "I live it when I can," if that is really what you do. Perhaps if more people admitted that fact then they wouldn't be so frustrated in trying to claim a label that just isn't them.
I also get tired of the line "We can't live it 24/7 because we have children." This tells me you have tunnel vision as to what M/s truly is. Let's set a few things straight. M/s is not S&M nor is it B&D, although it may have some of these elements in it. Still, just as having sex doesn't make you married, flogging someone doesn't make you M/s. Furthermore, if you think that in order to fulfill your place as slave you need to wear thick leather cuffs or a dog collar and run around nude all the time, then your slavery is felt from the outside, not internally. Sure those accessories may assist in you feeling like a slave or looking like one, but as a diamond tiara doesn't make one a princess, neither does wearing a collar make one a slave. Likewise, I'm as much a Master in my bathing suit as I am in my black boots and leather vest. The saying, "The clothes make the man," doesn't really hold true in anything but appearances. The girls and I love the outward symbols, but they are symbols. For us, M/s is what comes from within that determines what transpires without; it is not defined in the bedroom, but by our natures. M/s is a state of mind.
Furthermore, it is not something you can switch on or off as fancy or opportunity takes one. The Master/slave dynamic is an on-going, permanent and irreversible process. It doesn't end with the words or the collar. In fact, it is only just beginning there and must be renewed hour after hour, day after day. The security, the caring, the love and, perhaps, even the turn-on are the results of, not the prerequisites for, all genuine slavery. Just as you do not switch your love or responsibility on or off, neither do you switch who you really are on or off.
Slavery is about service, whether that be in the kitchen, the bedroom or at a friend's house. It is the physical act of doing something with the benefit of someone else in mind, in this case the Master. A slave that is not allowed to serve is like a dancer forbidden to dance. It is in the deepest part of their being. Fulfilling who you are is not determined by how hard you can be spanked or how often, but by how well you serve your Master.
Service within an M/s dynamic is a reciprocal transaction. As much as the slave needs to serve, it is the Master's desire to be served. It is this dance taking place between the two that brings beauty to the relationship and it is a dance that can be performed everywhere. This service is not to be confused with the bullied "using" of another person. (Unless, of course, that's a scene being enacted by both parties, in which case bully on.). Those who attempt to force servitude are predators, not Masters.
This Lifestyle can be lived 25/7. I know because we do it, at home, at the mall and in front of our children. The Master/slave dynamic is about Ownership and service; it's about structure and following a certain path that seems almost spiritual in its journey. Spanking their bottoms is just one of the extra perks we get to enjoy when the kids are gone.
By PapaBear66
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