We pull out of our driveway every weekday morning at 7:30 burdened with
briefcases and overflowing cups of coffee. So do our neighbors. Saturday we cut
grass and trim the hedges. So do our neighbors. We sit on the back porch
laughing with friends, sit at our desk paying bills, and go on vacation fussing
at the kids who have been cooped up in a car beyond tolerance level. So do our
neighbors. Yet, unbeknownst to our neighbors we are not like them. We do not
think of ourselves in terms of husband and wife – or in our case, wives – but
rather as Master and slaves, and this our neighbors do not do; at least, not
that we’ve discovered, yet.
The Master/slave dynamic is not a fetish or a kink; at least, not to us. It is the way we live our lives. It’s a matter of personal fulfillment over temporary pleasure. It’s not something we choose to do as much as a path that we cannot help but to follow. I am a dominant, not by choice, but by nature. It is part of who I am to create structure for those around me, to guide and encourage, bringing a sense of order out of what can sometimes be a chaotic world. While I may have learned certain techniques and habits to assist me in accomplishing what I want, the passion and drive come from within.
The girls are the same when it comes to their slavery. They need to serve and take care of me. They crave structure and protocols and rituals. They prefer to follow one who has their best interests at heart and a clear path for the future. Those yearnings come from within and what permits us to live this lifestyle 24/7 and sets us apart from our neighbors is the proper mindset, a willing heart, and a determination to see it through.
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way” holds very true, and since it’s the Master’s will that determines the course, he must find the way to maintain the proper mindset. If the slave follows and the Master’s mind can create the moments that matter, then the dynamic will have life and not frustration.
The obstacle hindering people from maintaining the proper mindset for a 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle is that they believe the fiction that floods the market. A submissive friend of mine once wrote me complaining about how life had just about put an end to her dynamic. She had three impressionable children living with her along with one of her parents and work schedules compounded it to make it seem like they never had time to themselves. She felt that with all of those people in the home they couldn’t carry out their lifestyle without outing themselves.
“I haven’t been beaten in so long my tolerance has diminished. What do I do?”
The problem is how she defines the M/s lifestyle, because what she was complaining about is the same thing every couple has complained about since Eve had Cain. “Our house is so busy, our sex life is suffering.” Vanilla couples have the same issue. They can’t exactly have “Oh my god” screaming out loud sex when the kids are in the living room watching the Disney Channel. Yet, they continue to live their vanilla life 24/7. It merely means that they have to wait until the kids are at a friend’s or asleep to have the uninhibited sex that they want. However, that’s sex, not their way of life, and that’s where most people lose it.
The 24/7 Master/slave dynamic is not about sexual activities; it’s about attitude. It requires a certain mindset that is not dependent upon sexual play in order to keep it in focus. It’s about atmosphere, creating an environment that always keeps the roles at the forefront of each other’s minds.
In The Loving Dominant, John Warren writes, “We need the symbols to remind ourselves that the world within is strikingly different from the world without.” I agree, completely. However, I do not believe those symbols have to be outlandish or in your face bold. What you choose to represent lifestyle components is entirely up to you. An elegant, or even simple for that matter, necklace or bracelet can replace the more common leather collar and be worn all the time, leaving the children in the dark about how Daddy owns Mommy.
Even the rituals that we hold dear to us can be tailored to fit the active home. How you practice your dynamic isn’t the important thing nor is what you wear or what happens behind your bedroom door. It’s a matter of how you feel; a state of being. If you unwrap your mind from around the fiction that is out there and use your imagination to create a world that fits your needs and availability. Nothing stops you from having a vibrant Master/slave dynamic but a lack of imagination and a weak sense of determination.
The symbols don’t even have to be physical in nature. While the girls may love to have that chain around their neck or wrist that they can touch every once in awhile as a physical reminder of their place in our family, a symbol can be anything, such as a tattoo or object that they carry. Furthermore, it can be doing without something, like not permitting them to wear panties as a sign that their bodies belong to the Master.
Building structure, no matter how small it may seem, into your day to day living will help interject the Master/slave dynamic into what others might view as a normal, vanilla existence. Examine your daily routine and figure out ways to add protocols that no one would really notice, but which the two of you know are in place and must be adhered to because of the roles that you are fulfilling. Why does the slave sit where she does at the dinner table? Who is first in and out of doors? Who turns the bed down for the night? Where does the slave sit while watching television? All of these can be done in a manner that as the slave carries them out she knows that it’s because her Master has chosen to have her do it that way. She stops and thinks, “I am sitting on the floor while we watch The Big Bang Theory because it pleases him for me to do so and in pleasing him I am serving him.”
One of the pivotal moments in maintaining mindset is reentering the personal world from the work world. When the slave has worked all day, it can be difficult to switch her professional mind off to settle more fully into her slave mindset. If she comes home frazzled from her day, immediately starts dealing with kids and cooking dinner, then most of her night could very easily get away from her before she stops and thinks about what she is truly doing and who she is doing it for.
A transitional period where the slave can slip out of the business world and into her personal world just as if switching clothes may be needed. I read an illustration once where it was like when the astronauts return from space. They have to spend time in the pressure chamber in order to go from one extreme to the other. Creating a transitional ritual between work and home does the same thing. It can be as simple as a shower to wash away the day’s stress or an elaborate ritual where the slave kneels, repeating a mantra in her head. When the girls come in from work they go to the bedroom and strip. They then kneel, eyes downcast, hands on thighs palms up and wait for me. Depending on how rough their day was will determine how long I leave them there forgetting the work day and remembering that they are my slave. Just before I allow them to rise I ask them a series of ritualistic questions starting with “Who am I?”
“My Master.”
“And who are you?”
“Your slave.”
“So, I own you.”
“Yes, Master.”
“Do I own your mind?”
“Yes, Master.”
“Do I own your body?”
“Yes, Master.”
“And do I own your heart?”
“Yes, Master.”
“And who do you serve?”
“You, Master.”
“Then rise and serve me.” And then I extend my hand, which she takes, and I lift her to her feet so that she may begin our evening. Her mind is no longer on work, but now solely on me. Her mind is now set and everything from making popcorn to sitting at my feet has the focus and meaning that we want it to have in order to fulfill our dynamic.
Nothing can hinder you from keeping and maintaining a 24/7 Master/slave dynamic except you. Externals don’t matter because it’s all internal. Allow what’s inside of you to dictate what shapes the outside and everything will stay in focus.
BY Papa Bear
The Master/slave dynamic is not a fetish or a kink; at least, not to us. It is the way we live our lives. It’s a matter of personal fulfillment over temporary pleasure. It’s not something we choose to do as much as a path that we cannot help but to follow. I am a dominant, not by choice, but by nature. It is part of who I am to create structure for those around me, to guide and encourage, bringing a sense of order out of what can sometimes be a chaotic world. While I may have learned certain techniques and habits to assist me in accomplishing what I want, the passion and drive come from within.
The girls are the same when it comes to their slavery. They need to serve and take care of me. They crave structure and protocols and rituals. They prefer to follow one who has their best interests at heart and a clear path for the future. Those yearnings come from within and what permits us to live this lifestyle 24/7 and sets us apart from our neighbors is the proper mindset, a willing heart, and a determination to see it through.
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way” holds very true, and since it’s the Master’s will that determines the course, he must find the way to maintain the proper mindset. If the slave follows and the Master’s mind can create the moments that matter, then the dynamic will have life and not frustration.
The obstacle hindering people from maintaining the proper mindset for a 24/7 Master/slave lifestyle is that they believe the fiction that floods the market. A submissive friend of mine once wrote me complaining about how life had just about put an end to her dynamic. She had three impressionable children living with her along with one of her parents and work schedules compounded it to make it seem like they never had time to themselves. She felt that with all of those people in the home they couldn’t carry out their lifestyle without outing themselves.
“I haven’t been beaten in so long my tolerance has diminished. What do I do?”
The problem is how she defines the M/s lifestyle, because what she was complaining about is the same thing every couple has complained about since Eve had Cain. “Our house is so busy, our sex life is suffering.” Vanilla couples have the same issue. They can’t exactly have “Oh my god” screaming out loud sex when the kids are in the living room watching the Disney Channel. Yet, they continue to live their vanilla life 24/7. It merely means that they have to wait until the kids are at a friend’s or asleep to have the uninhibited sex that they want. However, that’s sex, not their way of life, and that’s where most people lose it.
The 24/7 Master/slave dynamic is not about sexual activities; it’s about attitude. It requires a certain mindset that is not dependent upon sexual play in order to keep it in focus. It’s about atmosphere, creating an environment that always keeps the roles at the forefront of each other’s minds.
In The Loving Dominant, John Warren writes, “We need the symbols to remind ourselves that the world within is strikingly different from the world without.” I agree, completely. However, I do not believe those symbols have to be outlandish or in your face bold. What you choose to represent lifestyle components is entirely up to you. An elegant, or even simple for that matter, necklace or bracelet can replace the more common leather collar and be worn all the time, leaving the children in the dark about how Daddy owns Mommy.
Even the rituals that we hold dear to us can be tailored to fit the active home. How you practice your dynamic isn’t the important thing nor is what you wear or what happens behind your bedroom door. It’s a matter of how you feel; a state of being. If you unwrap your mind from around the fiction that is out there and use your imagination to create a world that fits your needs and availability. Nothing stops you from having a vibrant Master/slave dynamic but a lack of imagination and a weak sense of determination.
The symbols don’t even have to be physical in nature. While the girls may love to have that chain around their neck or wrist that they can touch every once in awhile as a physical reminder of their place in our family, a symbol can be anything, such as a tattoo or object that they carry. Furthermore, it can be doing without something, like not permitting them to wear panties as a sign that their bodies belong to the Master.
Building structure, no matter how small it may seem, into your day to day living will help interject the Master/slave dynamic into what others might view as a normal, vanilla existence. Examine your daily routine and figure out ways to add protocols that no one would really notice, but which the two of you know are in place and must be adhered to because of the roles that you are fulfilling. Why does the slave sit where she does at the dinner table? Who is first in and out of doors? Who turns the bed down for the night? Where does the slave sit while watching television? All of these can be done in a manner that as the slave carries them out she knows that it’s because her Master has chosen to have her do it that way. She stops and thinks, “I am sitting on the floor while we watch The Big Bang Theory because it pleases him for me to do so and in pleasing him I am serving him.”
One of the pivotal moments in maintaining mindset is reentering the personal world from the work world. When the slave has worked all day, it can be difficult to switch her professional mind off to settle more fully into her slave mindset. If she comes home frazzled from her day, immediately starts dealing with kids and cooking dinner, then most of her night could very easily get away from her before she stops and thinks about what she is truly doing and who she is doing it for.
A transitional period where the slave can slip out of the business world and into her personal world just as if switching clothes may be needed. I read an illustration once where it was like when the astronauts return from space. They have to spend time in the pressure chamber in order to go from one extreme to the other. Creating a transitional ritual between work and home does the same thing. It can be as simple as a shower to wash away the day’s stress or an elaborate ritual where the slave kneels, repeating a mantra in her head. When the girls come in from work they go to the bedroom and strip. They then kneel, eyes downcast, hands on thighs palms up and wait for me. Depending on how rough their day was will determine how long I leave them there forgetting the work day and remembering that they are my slave. Just before I allow them to rise I ask them a series of ritualistic questions starting with “Who am I?”
“My Master.”
“And who are you?”
“Your slave.”
“So, I own you.”
“Yes, Master.”
“Do I own your mind?”
“Yes, Master.”
“Do I own your body?”
“Yes, Master.”
“And do I own your heart?”
“Yes, Master.”
“And who do you serve?”
“You, Master.”
“Then rise and serve me.” And then I extend my hand, which she takes, and I lift her to her feet so that she may begin our evening. Her mind is no longer on work, but now solely on me. Her mind is now set and everything from making popcorn to sitting at my feet has the focus and meaning that we want it to have in order to fulfill our dynamic.
Nothing can hinder you from keeping and maintaining a 24/7 Master/slave dynamic except you. Externals don’t matter because it’s all internal. Allow what’s inside of you to dictate what shapes the outside and everything will stay in focus.
BY Papa Bear
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